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Guest Post, Well, Sort of..

9:28 PM


It's been ages since I've posted, but I thought I'd start posting again. This is Charles by the way, Big Papa, just kidding, no one calls me that, but this is indeed Charles - after all they're my baby Wagners too, anwyay..so here goes.

I've always been a gamer, back before the term existed.  I would play video games in the arcades like crazy, spending every quarter I made from my door-to-door sales job.  We didn't have much in the way of video games in the house, and for good reason; I was entranced by them and would spend hours playing the few games we did have on our Apple IIc.  We had Lode Runner, Karateka and Where in the world is Carmen Sandiego.  I also got really into RPGs (Role Playing Games), like Dungeons and Dragons.  I would meet up with a few friends in my neighborhood and spend an entire Saturday engrossed in fantasy worlds.  In college, I was introduced to another kind of role playing game: ClanLord.  This was an online game, a MMORPG (Massively Multiplayer Online Role PlayingGame).  It was sort of like playing Dungeons and Dragons with a Whack-a-mole aspect to it.  I got pretty heavily sucked into that one, spending countless hours where I did little else.  Later still I found sports games, which is how my passion for baseball was renewed.  The pull of losing myself in an alternate reality, whether a simulated baseball game or a universe where teleportation and rifts of energy abound, has always been appealing to me.  

Lately it's been games on my phone: Scrabble, WordsWithFriends, racing games, "tower defense" games, and Tetris style timewasters, solitaire and CheekyBingo. The end result is that, instead of focusing on reality, I'm stuck (even if just for a few minutes) in this other world, for part of my day.  Some of them are designed to keep you checking back in, or else you don't get the upgrade, waste points or get attacked.  While I'm waiting for my daughter to go to sleep, I'm racing a rally car in Road Trip 2 or piloting a jetpack through an underground laboratory in Jetpack Joyride.  

Here's a review from their website: 

 "What makes Jetpack Joyride truly noteworthy isn't the array of power-ups, the endless customization, the various objectives, or the on death slot machine system. It's really the sum of all these different parts that have created a game that has kept me playing to the point of disregarding real world responsibilities for one more go at Jetpack Joyride." (my emphasis)

And there it is… This is the end result of all the hours I invest in these games: disregard for real world responsibilities.  Sure, it's fun, but so is shooting the breeze with my wife, riding my bike, creating a really well-designed lesson plan or playing with my kids.  My point isn't that you should stop playing games.  Hell, I'm actually recommending a couple I think are awesome by name!  What I am saying is that I can always find more time to be present in the real world.  Anytime I'm feeling stressed out because I'm not getting what I think I need or want, I can look at myself and ask: How efficient am I being with my time?  How am I relating (or not relating) to those most important to me?  What areas of my life am I not as available as I would like to be?

Speaking of which...

My beautiful wife and lovely children are having a blast in the other room, I think I'll go join them... after I check my upgrade status on Clash of Clans.

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Happy Valentine's Day! - Thankful Thursday

2:34 PM

I am in tears right now. Good, happy tears. Tears because I know that I am loved and supported. Thank you, Charlie.

I wrote an email to Charlie this morning because, like I've stated here before, I'm tired of my unfulfilling desk job and tried to think of ways I could make ends meet while still pursing my passions and hopefully in a few years, making my passions be steady enough to pay the bills. Here is his response:

You're on the right track.  Looking to branch out, keeping your eyes on other opportunities, in and out of your current field, and pursuing your passions.  I think I heard you talking about marketing yourself as a wedding photographer to college students?  This sounds like a great way to develop a clientele.  I could go to a couple of colleges and universities with Jax tomorrow when we're on our excursion and post some flyers or business cards.  I'll do whatever I can to support you.  And I can certainly look at moving on if Lighthouse doesn't offer me something that's competitive, once I'm credentialed (in Fall 2015 would be fully credentialed, I could conceivably move on after the preliminary credential was finished in Fall of 2014 but I wouldn't be CLEARing my credential through Reach unless I was at another charter they were affiliated with, meaning I would pay much more in tuition).  As far as being 100% Mom and Wife, you're doing a great job.  Your kids have the best Mom they could ever have.  They're healthy and loving kids because they have a Mom who cares for them and loves them.  Your husband is crazy in love with you.  He's also a little crazy, so when it seems like you're not the best Wife ever, it's because he's a bit obsessive and uptight.  He can't always remember that things are exactly as they ought to be, right in the moment, but that's not how they'll always be.  He can't always summon the faith to move through the challenges he faces with calm.  But you help him so much in those areas by being exactly who you are, speaking up for yourself and taking risks.  Mom and Wife are two jobs you are doing perfectly.
I love you,
Charlie
I teared up as I started to read his words. Charlie also let me sleep last night as soon as I got home from my desk job and took over the parenting duties for a second night by himself because on Tuesday night & Wednesday morning - I was with Jenny helping her with her successful VBAC (my first experience as a birth photography session and being a doula). He also packed me a lunch today. So, thank you again Charlie - for being a wonderful husband and a super duper father to our kids. I love you too.

Happy Valentine's Day!

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blur

3:36 PM










It's hard to take pictures when he moves around so darn much (and its from my phone)! we got this trike thing (not part of the recall, i think. um i hope) awhile back but he just started to really be into it. more like be a menace on it! he totally climbed and stood on it all by himself and even tried to rock it that way! we of course were good parents and told him not to do that while laughing and taking pictures (further encouraging him im sure).

Charlie's been busy trying to get out there and get a teaching job and we've been fortunate enough to have had amazing friends watch Jax for a few hours while Charlie was out and about. But it seems like we will have to seriously find something more permanent (hopefully..its bittersweet) soon - a daycare situation or a nanny share or something. what we really need is some sort of drop-in care really, since most likely Charlie will be able to get substitute teaching jobs and those are usually at a moments notice. sigh...no more daddy day care?!

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what happened?

9:50 PM

the first time i watched this, i couldnt even pay attention to the relative cuteness. instead i really just wanted to wipe the dungis (muck or grime or boogies and stuff in tagalog) off his face.

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baby cobra

10:37 AM


phew all that yoga made me tired that I had my minion, I mean, that my Dad and I went out for a walk.

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10:47 AM

yeah, so on wednesdays this is what my boys are up to, while im at work...lucky bastards..

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